Who taught you how to love?

I’ve been privileged to sit underneath the multitude of talented & knowledgeable teachers. My life journey took me through the public school system, community colleges, 3 different universities, and to earning graduate degrees in business administration & psychology. In addition I’ve sat under advanced theological teachings in church settings & personal growth seminars. However, a few years ago I had the realization that, in all my learning, no one ever taught me how to love. And yes, I have been presented theory on what love should look like (especially in church settings), but many of the examples presented to me fell far from the standard given.

How did you learn to love?
Who taught you?
How do you personally know that you are loving others to the fullest?
These are a sample of questions that I ask others on my journey to be a more loving husband, son, friend, follower of Jesus & member of the human race.

Unapologetically yours,

John Eli

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
1 Corinthians 13:4‭-‬7 NLT

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Published by John Eli

I am a self-awareness coach (coach for humans), life strategist, blogger and speaker. I’ve spent over 21 years mentoring individuals in life skills, career transitions, relationships, and life recovery. My resume includes pastoral care, behavioral health, and higher education. From an early age, I realized that God created me to bring hope, healing and encouragement to others. I am currently living out my purpose by creating a space where people can rediscover and become all that they were created to be. I currently live in the beautiful state of Arizona with my wife, two dogs, and an antique piano whom I call, “Betty.”

17 thoughts on “Who taught you how to love?

      1. When I am getting eyes rolled at me when I speak of His love I am reminded of what Jesus said on the cross: “Father, forgive them-they know not what they do”
        That’s LOVE!!!!

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    1. It is the most descriptive definition of true love…. and I agree that it is hard to follow? Which part of it is the hardest for you to follow? Which is the easiest?


  1. Romantic love was something I had to learn by trial and much error but I finally figured it out when I met and married my 2nd wife two decades ago. Loving my neighbor as myself? Well, that’s still an ongoing learning process but, with Christ as my mentor, I’m getting better at it day by day.

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    1. Jesus is the best mentor that we can ever have. However, I wish that I had better examples of how to live out his love from the mentors that I’ve had in life. Do you have a good example of love from anyone around you?


    1. This is definitely following the example of Jesus. Forgiveness is a big challenge for me. I always have to check myself to make sure that I’m not holding on to a grudge.

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