8 practical ways to improve your child’s emotional health

๐„๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ, ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ, ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ง๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐œ.โฃ
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It is equally unrealistic to expect your child to learn emotional regulation in a classroom, playground, football field, in a youth group, or in a music program when there is a low level of emotional health in his/her home. โฃ
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As humbling it may be, it is important to note that your child’s emotional dysregulation may very well be a reflection of your own. โฃ
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๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐Ÿพ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜บ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ-๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ. โฃ
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๐Ÿ. ๐€๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ: As a human race, we tend to either suppress our emotions or categorize them into two categories; positive feelings and negative ones. Nevertheless, emotions are nothing more than a biological response to external stimuli. You are not your emotions. With that in mind, you have every right to feel them. โฃ
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๐Ÿ. ๐—ช๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ง๐ค: Unaddressed trauma is much like a petri dish in the hands of emotional bacteria. Some of us have been in a state of emotional dysregulation since childhood simply because we have never dealt with any of our traumatic life experiences. You may not have been responsible for what happened to you, but you are responsible for your healing. (๐˜ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฃ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด, ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜ด, ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ๐˜ด.)โฃ
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๐Ÿ‘. ๐ˆ๐ง๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ: Your presence ought to be the safest place for your child to express themselves. Make it a practice to ask your child how he/she is feelingโ€ฆ. And for what it’s worth, “good” is not a feeling. (๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜บ, ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ค ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ)โฃ
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๐Ÿ’. ๐‘๐ž๐Ÿ๐ซ๐š๐ข๐ง ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ: Remain curious rather than directive. The last thing a child needs to hear when sad is, “๐˜‹๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ฅ.” The best thing they can hear is, “๐˜ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ _, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜บ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ.”โฃ
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๐Ÿ“. ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก ๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ž: Seeing a counselor should be as normal as seeing your family doctor. (๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ: ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฌ ๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ/๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ต.)โฃ
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๐Ÿ”. ๐Œ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ซ๐จ๐จ๐ฆ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ: The path towards resilience requires a safe space to express sadness, disappointment, and pain. At some point, your child will mourn the loss of a pet, family member, loved one, friendship, and (๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜บ) the ability to go to school. Learn to be uncomfortable with being uncomfortable. Grief will eventually lead you to endurance. โฃ
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๐Ÿ•. ๐Œ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ซ๐จ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฆ: Dreams are not based on one’s current reality. Instead, they serve as a portal to help us imagine life outside of our current reality. Dreams are the fuel that keeps us moving forward when the going gets tough. โฃ
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๐Ÿ–. ๐‚๐ž๐ฅ๐ž๐›๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ: The practice of gratitude will always positively impact your attitude. Invite your children to join you in a daily practice of celebrating wins. This practice will help you, as a family, to recognize the presence of goodness when faced with difficult times. โฃ

John Eli
Coach for humans
[BDยฒ] โ€ข Be โ€ข Dream โ€ข Believe โ€ขย  Do โ€ข

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