What I learned from walking away from one-sided relationships

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๐€ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ž ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค ๐ˆ ๐ฆ๐š๐๐ž ๐š ๐๐ž๐œ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐จ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ง๐ž-๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ž๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ. โฃ
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My desire was not based on an elevated view of self or a desire to cause anyone pain.โฃ
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Rather, it came from accepting the fact that authentic human connection is important to me. โฃ
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It also came from accepting that I had invested much of my life in a number of activities and relationships that caused me more sadness than they did joy. โฃ
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These two realizations left me with a choice to make. โฃ
๐˜ข) ๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ดโ€ฆโฃ
โ€ฆ ๐˜–๐˜ณโ€ฆโฃ
๐˜ฃ) ๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜จ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ.โฃ
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I ended up choosing the latterโ€ฆ.โฃ
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โ€ฆand in this journeyโ€ฆ โฃ
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I had to learn how to forgive people for misusing me. โฃ
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I had to forgive myself for misusing “me” too. โฃ
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I had to risk the possibility of new hurt and rejection. โฃ
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โ€ฆ But leaving the “old normal” is the best thing that could have happened to meโฃ
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For every relationship that I’ve had to take a step back from I’ve been blessed with a handful more of life-giving friendships. โฃ
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I’m a firm believer that I will not always find myself surrounded by the people that I expected to have around meโ€ฆ.. Nevertheless, I will always find myself surrounded by the people who were divinely appointed to walk the journey of life with me at any given moment in time

John Eli
๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ดโฃ
[๐๐ƒยฒ] โ€ข ๐๐ž โ€ข ๐ƒ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฆ โ€ข ๐๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ž โ€ข ๐ƒ๐จ โ€ข

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Published by John Eli

I am a self-awareness coach (coach for humans), life strategist, blogger and speaker. Iโ€™ve spent over 21 years mentoring individuals in life skills, career transitions, relationships, and life recovery. My resume includes pastoral care, behavioral health, and higher education. From an early age, I realized that God created me to bring hope, healing and encouragement to others. I am currently living out my purpose by creating a space where people can rediscover and become all that they were created to be. I currently live in the beautiful state of Arizona with my wife, two dogs, and an antique piano whom I call, โ€œBetty.โ€

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