The work that makes me come alive.

My current full-time job requires me to coach people that don’t necessarily want to be coached. Many of them are on a time crunch with a few minutes to talk and they just want to ask a simple question and receive a simple answer… Sadly, when these people don’t engage in conversation, your call receives a poor evaluation. … and receiving a poor evaluation never feels good…. ⁣
(Even when I know that the evaluators have little to no experience coaching others… they still sting,)⁣

Needless to say, my life comes alive when I remove my headset and punch out of my 9 to 5. A 30-minute break is all I need to recharge and prepare for the work that I love to do. I am a Coach for Humans.⁣

As the owner of my own coaching practice, I strongly refuse to work with anyone who doesn’t want to be coached. ⁣
… and what I experience as a transformational life coach is a complete opposite of what I experience in my full-time gig. ⁣

This evening, I had the privilege of coaching a young man from South Asia who was struggling to process grief. Our conversation was empowering for both of us. As we prepared to end our call I asked him what his biggest takeaway from our conversation was. He stated, “𝘛𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘐 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯. 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴.” ⁣

This coaching conversation, along with two others that I had this week, reminds me of why I do what I do. ⁣
• I love empowering people to create the change that they desire to have in life. ⁣
• I love helping people to connect with their authentic selves. ⁣
• I love helping people to discover their purpose. ⁣
• I love helping people to develop the beliefs and practices that they need to live life to the fullest. ⁣
• I love being able to tailor each session to meet the needs of each client using my complete toolbox of modalities that are backed by evidence-based psychological theory. ⁣
These are the moments that make me come alive.⁣

Unapologetically Yours,

John Eli

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  1. Coaching people who don’t want to be coached is hard, brother. I encounter that a lot at my gig, too. But, just like it took me wanting to make a change, I understand that is what it will take for them to desire to make changes. Good post.

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