My current full-time job requires me to coach people that don’t necessarily want to be coached. Many of them are on a time crunch with a few minutes to talk and they just want to ask a simple question and receive a simple answer… Sadly, when these people don’t engage in conversation, your call receives a poor evaluation. … and receiving a poor evaluation never feels good….
(Even when I know that the evaluators have little to no experience coaching others… they still sting,)
Needless to say, my life comes alive when I remove my headset and punch out of my 9 to 5. A 30-minute break is all I need to recharge and prepare for the work that I love to do. I am a Coach for Humans.
As the owner of my own coaching practice, I strongly refuse to work with anyone who doesn’t want to be coached.
… and what I experience as a transformational life coach is a complete opposite of what I experience in my full-time gig.
This evening, I had the privilege of coaching a young man from South Asia who was struggling to process grief. Our conversation was empowering for both of us. As we prepared to end our call I asked him what his biggest takeaway from our conversation was. He stated, “𝘛𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘐 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯. 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴.”
This coaching conversation, along with two others that I had this week, reminds me of why I do what I do.
• I love empowering people to create the change that they desire to have in life.
• I love helping people to connect with their authentic selves.
• I love helping people to discover their purpose.
• I love helping people to develop the beliefs and practices that they need to live life to the fullest.
• I love being able to tailor each session to meet the needs of each client using my complete toolbox of modalities that are backed by evidence-based psychological theory.
These are the moments that make me come alive.
Unapologetically Yours,
John Eli
Isn’t it awesome when we can be in our element using our God given abilities to do what we are passionate about and help others?!! Way to go John! 😊🙏
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absolutely. There is no greater feeling that stepping into the person that God created you to be. 💯🙌🏽
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Coaching people who don’t want to be coached is hard, brother. I encounter that a lot at my gig, too. But, just like it took me wanting to make a change, I understand that is what it will take for them to desire to make changes. Good post.
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I appreciate you, bro. Keeping a positive perspective when facing this is challenging. Nevertheless, I show up every day and give my 100%.
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