John Eli

All healthy relationships require…

All healthy relationships make space to engage in a balance of conversation that celebrates good and that confronts the bad.

Love & Hate for my childhood home

I don’t share this out of spite, unforgiveness, or to give anyone a bad name.
Nor do I share this to gain attention or sympathy.
I share because for years I allowed the influence of others to silence me.
I share this because I traded the narrative of truth for a false narrative of positivity.
I share this because there were points in my life where I believed that I was better off dead than alive.

Spiritually Bypassing Generational Trauma

As I’ve worked through my trauma, one of the common phrases that I’ve heard people say is, “You need to get over it already.”
However, there is no way to “get over” trauma.
You see…..trauma isn’t an event….
Trauma is something that happens inside of you.

Easter 2021 Reflections

I didn’t grow up observing this day. On the contrary, I grew up in a fundamentalist vacuum that frowned on anything having to Easter due to pagan influences on the traditions surrounding this day. As I broke away from my restrictive upbringing, I remained open to the over-the-top Easter performances/productions that were a main staple in the new world that I called home

I haven’t stepped into a Church BUilding in a year… (and this is what I’ve learned so far)

𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐡 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫….⁣
…. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘭𝘺, 𝘐’𝘮 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵. ⁣

Assumptions

𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐈’𝐦 𝐚 𝐂𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐧. ⁣ I think I’m perfect. ⁣ I’m Republican⁣ I don’t cuss⁣ I don’t drink beer⁣ I don’t dance⁣ I hate gay people⁣ I have the perfect marriage⁣ I never get mad⁣ I have everything figured out⁣ I’m going to judge you⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡⁣ IContinue reading “Assumptions”

Thoughts of an Independent voter after The election

I think I witnessed too much hate and evil during these past 4 years (and much of it done in the name of Christ) for me to just shake it off and pretend as if nothing happened.

Jesus, politics, and what really matters to his heart.

Is it just me, or do we see Jesus deflecting from the political atmosphere of his time? ⁣

What I learned from walking away from one-sided relationships

I’m a firm believer that I will not always find myself surrounded by the people that I expected to have around me….. Nevertheless, I will always find myself surrounded by the people who were divinely appointed to wall the journey of life with me at any given moment in time

8 practical ways to improve your child’s emotional health

𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲, 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭, 𝐢𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜.⁣
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