As I’ve worked through my trauma, one of the common phrases that I’ve heard people say is, “You need to get over it already.”
However, there is no way to “get over” trauma.
You see…..trauma isn’t an event….
Trauma is something that happens inside of you.
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What I learned from walking away from one-sided relationships
I’m a firm believer that I will not always find myself surrounded by the people that I expected to have around me….. Nevertheless, I will always find myself surrounded by the people who were divinely appointed to wall the journey of life with me at any given moment in time
8 practical ways to improve your child’s emotional health
𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲, 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭, 𝐢𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜.
6 things That I have learned from my mental health journey
At that point, I knew that his personal convictions were not based on reality and that meeting with him was causing more harm to me than good.
The danger of spiritually bypassing your Trauma
Denying one’s self, the opportunity to work through the pain of a traumatic experience, will never produce a positive result.
What I learned from a good “bro-hug”
The exercise wasn’t the least bit complex. In fact, I didn’t expect it to trigger the emotions that it did. Yet at that moment, I felt safe and grateful, and I wanted to hug him…. and I wasn’t sure how to feel about that.
Stepping out of shame
You know that you are experiencing growth when you celebrate your past instead of allowing it to shame you.
A message to all the men out there…..
When used properly, feelings can be used to help you move forward in life.
Self-approval > Approval of others
It is your obligation and duty to create a life that is in alignment with who you were created to be.
One good breath deserves another
I couldn’t help but feel admiration for him. How does one stand up and make such a bold statement at the heals of your best friend ending his own life? Yet he spoke as eloquently as he could despite his pain. Little did he know that those words would echo in my mind for days to come.
John Eli Garay, MBA/MS, LAC 